Purpose – feeling useful and needed.
Genuine connection – not just people nearby, but people who truly know them.
Continuity – familiar spaces, routines, and objects that link them to their past.
Dignity – being treated as an adult, not as a helpless child.
A facility may care for the body—but too often, it leaves the spirit neglected.
The options few people talk about
Before making an irreversible decision, it’s important to know that alternatives exist:
Supported home care
A caregiver visiting for a few hours a day can provide help without taking away independence.
Multigenerational living
Adapting a home so an older adult has their own space while staying close to family.
Shared housing for seniors
Small groups living together with support, allowing for a more natural daily life.
Day centers
Care and activities during the day, with the comfort of returning home at night.
Often, these options cost the same—or even less—than a nursing home, while offering far better quality of life.
How to make a fair choice
Before deciding, ask yourself:
What can this person truly no longer do alone?
What can they still do?
What do they want?
What resources exist in your community?
What simple changes could make their home safer?
And most importantly: include them in the decision.
They are not an object to be moved—they are a person with a voice, a past, and feelings.
Final thoughts
Don’t decide out of exhaustion or fear.
Speak honestly and respectfully with your loved one.
Explore every available option.
Share responsibility with other family members.
Always choose dignity over convenience.
Because more security does not always mean a better life.
